Divorce can be hard on children as they deal with turbulent feelings such as sadness, anger and frustration. These feelings often stem from the loss of the family as they’ve known it and from feeling like the divorce is their fault.
If you’re going through a divorce, you may not be able to get rid of every bad feeling your child has. But you may be able to help him or her navigate through this time a little easier.
Encourage them to speak openly and often. More than likely your children are going to have a lot of questions, fears, and thoughts about this new change in their lives. It’s okay! As they cope, it’s important that you create an atmosphere where they can express how they feel and work through it instead of bottling it up. If this is too hard for you at times, you can ask a trusted relative or friend to step in. Counseling may also be a great help. Also, your children may need to talk about the divorce as they get older and as new questions come up.
Keep the conflict and arguments away from your child. Try not to bring up conflicts and arguments in front of your child. This is one of the hardest things to do during a divorce, but one of the most important for your child. Hearing parents argue over him or her can cause a child’s guilty and negative feelings to escalate. The more factual and neutral you can be about the situation, the better the child can adjust to the new family structure.
Take care of yourself. By taking care of yourself and finding support in other people, you show your children how important it is to take some of the stress out of their own lives. You can do this by talking with friends, family, and organizations that help people move on in a healthy way. At Hoffman Divorce Strategies, we can help you resolve the financial problems of your divorce. With a clear picture of your financial future, you are able to make better decisions. Give us a call at (985) 674-1120 to learn more about our services.