While you might be tempted to push your feelings away, or bury them under your personal and professional responsibilities, it is far better to actually go through the grieving process, than it is to just try and move on without addressing these issues at all. Here are three important things that grieving assists with.
Finding closure. Surely you’re familiar with the saying “all good things come to an end”. This is true for everything, from lives and careers to relationships and in some cases marriages. Taking the time to accept that your relationship did not work out and that the divorce signifies the end of this time period can allow you to come to terms with the finality of the divorce.
Restoring energy levels. Grieving requires us to expend a majority of our energy on feelings of sadness, anger, hopelessness, and depression. Allowing ourselves to acknowledge these emotions is an important aspect of the grieving process. Be patient with yourself, and set aside time each day for quiet reflection and contemplation. It may take weeks or even months, but you will slowly gather your strength back.
Transitioning to a new chapter. When one life chapter closes, it’s time to transition to the next one. Trying to fast forward over your feelings or the legal process might prevent you from facing your emotions in the short term, but will allow hurt feelings to fester. Grieving is like punctuation in a sense. It tells you when to pause, when to stop altogether, and when to pick up the pieces and begin again.