If you’ve recently finalized a divorce, you’re probably trying to remember what the holidays were like when you were single. This time of year is all about spending time with friends and family, but if your split was acrimonious or incredibly heart-wrenching, you may feel sad or indifferent about the holiday season.
First, know that these feelings are completely normal. Divorce is a major life change. However, these three tips may help you navigate this time of year.
1.) Don’t worry about gifts. A divorce can take a toll on finances. Even if you and your ex decided to split everything 50/50, you may have new bills to pay, additional debt to consider and changes to your retirement fund and savings accounts. The holiday season, for many, is about gift-giving. However, take the opportunity to spend time with those you love and enjoy the interactions. Try not to stress about stocking stuffers or gifts for co-workers. Focus on you and your mental health.
2.) The kids will be fine. You have likely heard this a lot during the past several months, and there is truth to it. Children tend to adapt to change and new circumstances more easily than adults. Though it’s common for parents to worry following a split, the holidays can still be a fun and enjoyable time for your children. You and your ex may not be together, but you still love your children and can work together to provide them with a happy, relaxing season.
3.) Invest in self-care. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of holiday parties, travel planning and decorating. But it’s important that you set aside plenty of time to take care of yourself. Go for a walk once a day, soak in the bath or read a new book. Little things like this can help you relax and will remind you that each moment counts and time is moving forward.