Movies and TV make divorce look like a quick and relatively painless process. Sure, there’s the initial drama of discovering infidelity or realizing you weren’t “meant to be,” but after a montage featuring sad music and the finalization of some paperwork, everything’s good to go, right?
Although this would certainly be nice, ironing out all the financial and legal details can turn into a long and complicated journey. This is especially true if the separation isn’t amicable, or if assets like a home, vehicles, or stock options are involved. Before you make an appointment with a legal team, it’s important that you consider the reality of your situation.
Be willing to compromise. Divorce isn’t easy and tough decisions have to be made. You might not get everything you want, but you can get what you need. Keep the well-being of your ex and children at the forefront of your mind at all times. If things don’t go exactly how you planned, be willing to roll with the punches. The more you’re able to adapt, the better.
Be patient. Don’t expect things to be resolved quickly. On television, complicated situations like divorce proceedings can wrap up within 20 minutes. In real life, the divorce process can take many months, and in some cases, years. Be patient and follow your legal counsel’s guidance. Look at your financial future as a marathon, not a sprint. Everything will work itself out in time.